Apr 24, 2009

Why the AWARE saga is all of our concern

If you’ve been keeping up with my post at the AWARE facebook group (http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=69919939869) you would know that I have always been urging restraint for everyone. I’ve no less than many times, told people to NOT write to DBS and ask them to fire Josie Lau, because I feel that it is not right to do so, and it’ll backfire. Also her joining AWARE while breaching all staff’s code of conduct, does not warrant a sacking, and what DBS does to her, its purely their internal arrangement and we should not interfere.

However as you might have also noticed, they have been getting increasing brazen and I’ve also stop urging restraint, and I admit that at times, it gets just the slightest bit emotional, sometimes tongue in cheek but you get the drift. This is in no small part to the monumental damage these woman have done and can/will continue to do to AWARE and Singapore and it is all our concern as Singaporeans.

As Siming as rightly pointed out in his note which I’ve shared on my profile, freedom of religion in Singapore necessitates freedom FROM religion especially in non religious, secular institution. It is only in this situation can we have no infringement of anybody (read the note here http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=69919939869)

What truly shocks me and scares me is how brazen Church of Our Saviour at Margaret Drive (as opposed at Ms Thio Patio) have become. The series of events where first they stormed AWARE’s election (with the email now circulating on STOMP), then subsequently denying it, even claiming to have barely known each other. THEN firing members of the old guard, exclude the previous president and totally ignore her advise. THEN going on a CNA interview vehemently objecting to be on the same show as anyone from the old guard. THEN firing centre manager Ms Lee and changing the locks to the premise, THEN suddenly in an about turn Thio steps up and claimed that she was behind it. All these leaves a very sour aftertaste.

And their agenda is now out in the open, they want to dictate sex education in Singapore, it is all about homosexuality for them. Further to their dictum of women being subjugated to their husband, and that the man is the head of the household, how can we ever believe in them. They’ve also removed the “all-inclusive” line in AWARE’s constitution.

This is dangerous for Singapore because as I’ve pointed out, they’re want to do this because they want to remove homosexuals from Singapore. They’ve said during the press conference that they’re concerned that homosexual is a neutral word instead of being negative, and they’ve claimed that we are mentally abused and come from abusive family. I RESENT THAT. My family has been nothing but loving to me being gay. Where would this new face of Christian fundamentals stop? How far will they go to push their Christian agenda? No homosexual, no abortion, what’s next for secular Singapore?

I wonder what they would do if a conservative muslim group decides that the new AWARE has lost its focus by promoting woman working outside and be independent, and decides to storm the new AWARE as well? Because if we do not protect Singapore’s NGO from religious fanatics, that could very well happen, because everyone thinks that they’re right. We cannot allow these woman to overrun AWARE. If they feel that woman needs more values then as per what they’ve been doing, preach that in their religious institution, please keep your religious values to your institution.

We need to save AWARE, and protect other NGO’s from a similar fate. I urge all of you to write to important people whom might be able to help the cause. Because the future of Singapore should they be successful is beyond my imagination.

Please sign the petition here, and join the group linked above (http://www.gopetition.com/petitions/gender-equality-for-all.html)

Apr 13, 2009

OMG!!! CUTE TEES

isn't this t-shirt just DAMN CUTE!!!!!!! omg i <3 bug bunny




Apr 11, 2009

happiness comes in the little things

like seeing you on my computer screen while i am doing work, and hearing you disturb me (okok, entertaining) me with your singing...

=)

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Should i try the scruffy look??




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I can't believe that I am going to see the boy in just a few weeks time! It might even be earlier than expected so YAY, we'll see how it turns out.

It's still quite unbelievable that all my 16 years of education will be ending soon. It was quite an uninspiring end, without fanfare. But when the fact dawned on me, it was quite an emo moment. No more seeing my beloved gang in school, sitting by the benches and just talk and bitch. Thank goodness for that fyp day, where in a kismet, we all just gathered there are started to live the good old days. Pity Ms Cheong was NOT AROUND!!! if not it would be complete... ok there's also ling kai who wasn't there.

And now I'm reading and thinking, again the punishment for lazy boys like me who decides to not keep up with the reading during school term is a lot of readings to do at the end of the semester. Jem can spank me!!

Ok now back to my books.

Apr 5, 2009

The Beautiful Imperfection




I've been saying that I want to blog a long post, but I never really got down to it because school life has gotten the better of me. But tonight, I saw a video clip (above) that really moved me and makes me want to share my thoughts. (You can watch this on my posted links)

Essentially the clip is about a woman who describes her late husband and his imperfections, and it struck a chord in me. Many times I have told and ask people, who are in relationships and are in one of the usual tiffs, if this is something they can live with. Because to me, there is no such thing as the perfect person, there is no such thing as the right person. The most important thing is to make your partner the right one. Which is why I ask if this is something they can live with.

Everyone will have their imperfections, will have difference in opinions, will have difference in character, there are no 2 person out there in perfect synergy (not even twins) where they agree to every single detail. The key to a perfect relationship is to learn to live with all this imperfections and to love it.

Sometimes there is no middle ground, sometimes you just have to give in and tolerate it, because for all you know there are many things that your partner is putting up with and giving in as well.

I can be a very patience person but there are times when I get high strung and lose it quite abruptly and quite suddenly. It is times like when I know how someone tolerates my nonsense and puts up with me scolding unnecessarily. Of course I put up with quite a fair share myself, but that's how it is, and that's how it works.

We have to learn be tolerant, to be patient, and at the end of the day know that for every complain, every flaw, every imperfection, there's something that they do that makes you smile, the brightens up your day, that tugs at your heart. It could be that simple smile, that comforting snore (yes j-en), the puppy eyes. And learning and knowing that "its the imperfections that make them perfect"

There's really the secret to it all.