Chinese and the little things

Because we are Chinese, we value family and we value commitment. But all too often, we are exposed to the Western notion of things, such as romantic love. When we see movies, we always see the courtship and then the leads get together, and that's it. No movies discuss about commitment, about maintaining a relationship.

As Jeth says, after being together for 5 years, surely the flame will not be burning. Passion and romantic feeling fades, 爱情变成了感情. And it is perhaps 感情 that matters more, because its a commitment. The passion becomes a sort of concern and regard, and even dependence and habit. In my opinion, I think its a good thing. Sister tells me she's worried its a habit, and I say be happy its a habit, because it means that you guys are dependent on each other for something, and that is a good thing. TV always shows these impossible ideals.

A companion that drives the lonely nights away. Someone to just come home to. To be cooking braised pork, veggies and rice while waiting for him to come home from work. And he knows that you haven't had your coffee yet. Its in all these little things that says the most. More than any big expressions.

Because at the end of the day, we all need each other for something, making use? maybe in the most technical definition, yes. But in these small little things, we see more than just that. From always making sure you are around in a gathering, to knowing all your bad habits, telling you to stop it. To the care and concern about your family.