Jul 6, 2009

Squeeze a dollar from your latte

taken from http://www.investopedia.com/articles/pf/07/budget-tips.asp

[Note: People who know me, knows that I am mostly a frugal person and only occasionally do I indulge in some little pampering and luxury. This probably comes from good parenting, as such I am never in debt, and there's enough to go around. As I am about to step into the workforce, and needing to take on the financial responsibility for myself and my family, I think this article will help me alot, and perhaps for all those reading. Like I always ask people who want to buy that something, do you need or want it? And is there a better alternative? Of course if you say that you absolutely need that $100 t-shirt, you should really re-look at your priorities.]

When many people think of budgeting or saving money, they think of making major changes like cutting out vacations, downgrading the car, or moving to a smaller house. But budgeting doesn't necessarily have to involve a great deal of sacrifice or hassle. Paying more attention to the little expenses you incur every day on food, transportation and entertainment can help you stick to your budget with enough money left over to pay down your debt, enjoy a trip to Hawaii, or just live a little more comfortably. (Budgeting doesn't have to be all pain and no gain. To learn more, read Enjoy Life Now And Still Save For Later and Top 5 Budgeting Questions Answered.)

Food
Food can be a major expense for busy people who purchase a lot of meals away from home. If you added up the cost of all those lunches out, you might be shocked to find that you're spending $200 a month or more on meals that wouldn't cost more than $50 a month if you brought them from home.

Let's take a look at a few food-money traps you're likely to encounter on a daily basis and how to avoid them.
  • Reduce coffee costs - It's tempting to hit the coffee shop every morning, but the cost really adds up, especially if you're purchasing premium drinks like lattes. Strike a balance between saving money and treating yourself by reducing your weekly visits to the coffee shop from five to two, or ordering regular coffee and adding the milk yourself for free. Better yet, buy a coffee maker for your desk at work if it's your hatred of the office coffee that compels you to search out the premium blends. Even a fancy coffee maker will quickly pay for itself if you're currently spending $4 a day on lattes (that's $80 or more per month!).

  • Eat breakfast and create a food stash - Breakfast is usually the least expensive meal of the day, and you might not spend as much money on lunch and dinner if you don't starve yourself all morning. For the times you do get hungry, keep snacks with you in the car, in your purse or briefcase, and in your desk at work. You'll save both money and calories if you eat a granola bar instead of buying a muffin. Don't forget to take advantage of any freebies provided by your office.

  • Do it yourself - Rather than opening up your wallet, it's cheaper to make your own energy bars, yogurt parfaits, muffins, or whatever you habitually hand over money for. Also, don't buy bottled water. Carry your own re-usable bottle instead. The tap water in North America is perfectly safe to drink.

  • Save on lunch - Bringing your own lunch is a highly effective way to reduce spending, whether it's making a sandwich, bringing leftovers from last night's dinner, or heating up a can of chili. If your office doesn't have a communal fridge, consider getting your own mini-fridge. While this item may cost $80 new at the store, it will quickly pay for itself if it gets you to bring leftovers from home instead of spending $10 on restaurant lunches every day.

    If brown-bagging isn't your bag, "lunchpooling" can be another way to save money on workday lunches. Get together with a small group of co-workers and agree to each provide lunch one day per week. One person orders a pizza on Monday, and the next person buys a couple of foot long subs for Tuesday, etc. By selecting the right lunch choices, you'll save money by taking advantage of economies of scale.

  • Cook dinner - Cook ahead for the week during the weekend when you have the time. Make a large batch of food and freeze part of it. Don't hit the restaurant, pick up the phone, or visit the prepared food section of the grocery store every night. If you have to eat out, choose an inexpensive restaurant with generous portions so that you can get two or three meals for your money. Always take home restaurant leftovers.
Transportation
Driving a car to work every day costs more than just the price of gas - it also causes wear and tear on your vehicle (decreasing its value and increasing your maintenance and repair expenses) and increases your odds of being involved in an accident. Use these tips to make getting to work more cost-effective.
  • Carpool - You don't have to work in the same office as someone to catch a ride to work with him or her. Search out people on Craigslist who live and work in the same neighborhoods you do and have the same work hours. In addition to removing the stress of driving a few times a week, carpooling may even directly reduce your commute time by taking advantage of a carpool lane on the freeway.

  • Avoid peak commuting hours - Adjusting your commute to avoid rush hour not only gives you more free time; it also improves your gas mileage as you spend less time idling. Traffic may be much lighter just 15 or 30 minutes before the time you normally leave. Removing a long, stressful drive from your day can improve your energy level and your mood.

  • Take the bus - Even if it takes a little longer and you have to sit next to a stranger, you might find that being able to ignore the traffic and read a book makes sacrificing the privacy of your own vehicle worth it. A monthly bus pass is usually cheaper than a month's worth of gas.

  • Don't buy premium gas - Ignore the hype about premium gas unless the manufacturer of your vehicle specifically recommends a higher octane fuel. (For added insight and tips, see Getting A Grip On The High Cost Of Gas.)

  • Maintain your vehicle - Many major repairs and unexpected breakdowns can be avoided if you change your oil regularly and have the car thoroughly checked out once or twice a year. You can also buy anOBD-II reader to read your car's computer, which can save you a trip to the mechanic when your check engine light comes on.
Entertainment
At the end of a hard day's work, we all want nothing more than a few hours of relaxation and fun. How you choose to spend this time can have a major impact on your finances.

  • Stay home - The No.1 way to save money during your free time is to stay home. You're already paying for the place you live, so why not enjoy it? Avoiding malls, bars, clubs, movie theaters and restaurants will put you ahead of the game (as long as you don't fill that time with online shopping). This isn't to say that you should never go out, just that it's good to enjoy these pleasure in moderation. If you just have to get out of the house, run errands that are already factored into your budget, such as grocery shopping, or take advantage of free activities like hiking, visiting your neighborhood pool, or going to the library.

  • Trade major luxuries for affordable luxuries - If you feel like treating yourself to something special, keep it reasonable. Buying yourself some gourmet chocolate at the grocery store won't set you back nearly as much as going out for a gourmet dinner, but it might be all the pick-me-up you need. (To learn how to stretch your spending dollars even further, read Five Money-Saving Shopping Tips.)

  • Save on internet costs - If you live in an apartment or condo, look into sharing wireless internet with your neighbors. If you already have a land line and a cell phone, you can get dial-up internet without worrying about tying up the line. Today's dial-up is considerably faster than it used to be. If your online needs are minimal or you can accomplish what you need to during your lunch break at work, consider going without home internet altogether.

  • Only buy as much TV as you watch - Downgrade your cable package, or give up cable altogether and pay to watch individual TV shows from download sites such as Netflix or iTunes. Some networks let you watch recent shows for free online. You might also find that the cable company will suddenly offer you a better rate, at least for a few months, when you call to cancel. (For more on how conspicuous consumption can destroy your finances, see Stop Keeping Up With The Joneses - They're Broke.)

  • Be wary of bundled services - Don't assume that package deals that bundle your phone, internet and cable TV together are the best deal. It often pays to price-out the individual services from the different providers. Bundles also put you at greater risk of being unable to communicate in an outage.
Conclusion
Sticking to a budget doesn't have to be painful - it can actually be enjoyable when it helps you achieve your goals. You work hard for your money, so why let it slip away from you in ways that are easily controlled? While we can't always predict or prepare for the major expenses in our lives, we can choose how much money to spend on work lunches or television. Taking charge of the small, recurring costs can have a surprisingly large effect on your finances.

For more budgeting tips and tricks, read Save Money The Scottish Way and Get Your Budget In Fighting Shape.

by Amy Fontinelle,

Amy Fontinelle is a freelance writer and editor with clients located across the United States and in Canada. She has written over 300 published articles and blog posts for a variety of national and local publications and websites on topics including travel, restaurants, food and drink, fitness, budgeting, credit management, real estate, investing and historic preservation. Her articles have been featured on the homepage of Yahoo! and on Yahoo! Finance, Yahoo! HotJobs, several local news websites and Forbes.com.

You can read more of Amy's personal finance articles at Two Pennies Earned, her own personal finance website, and at PF Advice, one of the web's leading personal finance blogs.



May 26, 2009

I was pleasantly surprised

So at work today, I happen to be chatting with my boss before I left, and her little girl (a primary one girl) was beside her. As we were talking she asked her little girl if she wants to say bye bye to me as I was leaving to go home. The little girl knowing that I was from Singapore (and she spent the first 5 years of her life in Singapore) asked if I was going home to Singapore. So boss and I were laughing at her silliness and boss explained to her that no, I was going home to my place in Melbourne, where I stayed with my partner J.

Those were almost her exact words.

I was pleasantly surprised because while I know that boss is Australian, and she has been more than loving to me about me, I didn't expect her to say that. Despite knowing that her 2nd daughter's godparents are her best gay friend and his partner, I was still mildly shocked. I think suffice to say, this is a HUGE difference between the more loving people I have come into contact with in Singapore.

Of course its an easy generalization, but over here in Australian, you can even feel it in the air how they try to accept everyone. Honestly if I was an Australian, I would hate Asians too, if only you can see the number of Asians here! Just yesterday, a group of Asians allegedly murdered an Australian here, because the deceased tried to break up a fight. I have to say that they do better than Singaporeans in terms of treating foreigners (remember how we are like to foreigners - c.f PRC, South Asians). Besides accepting Asians, they are also very accepting of gay people. From 1st July 2009, they will recognize same sex couples living together and allow them the same benefits as different sex couples.

Its not only in the policies, in their everyday language too. Just that day on my friend's KT note, I was having a short conversation with his friend on how Australians do not assume that you have a girlfriend just because you are a guy. They use the word partner, and significant other.

Things are changing rapidly in Singapore, and watching the video of PinkDot brought more than a few stream of tears to my eyes. For the first time, I saw my peers, my friends, gay and straight coming together without fear to say its ok for us to love another person (I can go on a lengthy discussion to pre-empt the dissenters on how this does not apply to bestiality or necrophilia but that is not the point of this note). I saw how much love there was in the air, how there was no hate, no anger, no discrimination, just love. Its may sound cheesy and cliched, but there is really so little of it going around these days.

And its not only during events like these that messages of love are spread. Like I tell all my friends, I try my best to eradicate homophobia at the grassroots level. Day to day I live my life to the best and let people know that being gay makes no difference, my friends all love me for who I am, my employers see me for what I can do and contribute. I fondly remember how a dear old friend of mine, Jeremiah, stood for gay people when people in his camp started gay bashing. How many of you my dear friends has done that? If you had, thank you.

I have no doubt in my mind that my boss's little girl will grow up to love all her friends regardless on what label might be attached to them.

May 14, 2009

pinkdot.sg!

The Freedom To Love

Apr 24, 2009

Why the AWARE saga is all of our concern

If you’ve been keeping up with my post at the AWARE facebook group (http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=69919939869) you would know that I have always been urging restraint for everyone. I’ve no less than many times, told people to NOT write to DBS and ask them to fire Josie Lau, because I feel that it is not right to do so, and it’ll backfire. Also her joining AWARE while breaching all staff’s code of conduct, does not warrant a sacking, and what DBS does to her, its purely their internal arrangement and we should not interfere.

However as you might have also noticed, they have been getting increasing brazen and I’ve also stop urging restraint, and I admit that at times, it gets just the slightest bit emotional, sometimes tongue in cheek but you get the drift. This is in no small part to the monumental damage these woman have done and can/will continue to do to AWARE and Singapore and it is all our concern as Singaporeans.

As Siming as rightly pointed out in his note which I’ve shared on my profile, freedom of religion in Singapore necessitates freedom FROM religion especially in non religious, secular institution. It is only in this situation can we have no infringement of anybody (read the note here http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=69919939869)

What truly shocks me and scares me is how brazen Church of Our Saviour at Margaret Drive (as opposed at Ms Thio Patio) have become. The series of events where first they stormed AWARE’s election (with the email now circulating on STOMP), then subsequently denying it, even claiming to have barely known each other. THEN firing members of the old guard, exclude the previous president and totally ignore her advise. THEN going on a CNA interview vehemently objecting to be on the same show as anyone from the old guard. THEN firing centre manager Ms Lee and changing the locks to the premise, THEN suddenly in an about turn Thio steps up and claimed that she was behind it. All these leaves a very sour aftertaste.

And their agenda is now out in the open, they want to dictate sex education in Singapore, it is all about homosexuality for them. Further to their dictum of women being subjugated to their husband, and that the man is the head of the household, how can we ever believe in them. They’ve also removed the “all-inclusive” line in AWARE’s constitution.

This is dangerous for Singapore because as I’ve pointed out, they’re want to do this because they want to remove homosexuals from Singapore. They’ve said during the press conference that they’re concerned that homosexual is a neutral word instead of being negative, and they’ve claimed that we are mentally abused and come from abusive family. I RESENT THAT. My family has been nothing but loving to me being gay. Where would this new face of Christian fundamentals stop? How far will they go to push their Christian agenda? No homosexual, no abortion, what’s next for secular Singapore?

I wonder what they would do if a conservative muslim group decides that the new AWARE has lost its focus by promoting woman working outside and be independent, and decides to storm the new AWARE as well? Because if we do not protect Singapore’s NGO from religious fanatics, that could very well happen, because everyone thinks that they’re right. We cannot allow these woman to overrun AWARE. If they feel that woman needs more values then as per what they’ve been doing, preach that in their religious institution, please keep your religious values to your institution.

We need to save AWARE, and protect other NGO’s from a similar fate. I urge all of you to write to important people whom might be able to help the cause. Because the future of Singapore should they be successful is beyond my imagination.

Please sign the petition here, and join the group linked above (http://www.gopetition.com/petitions/gender-equality-for-all.html)

Apr 13, 2009

OMG!!! CUTE TEES

isn't this t-shirt just DAMN CUTE!!!!!!! omg i <3 bug bunny




Apr 11, 2009

happiness comes in the little things

like seeing you on my computer screen while i am doing work, and hearing you disturb me (okok, entertaining) me with your singing...

=)

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Should i try the scruffy look??




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I can't believe that I am going to see the boy in just a few weeks time! It might even be earlier than expected so YAY, we'll see how it turns out.

It's still quite unbelievable that all my 16 years of education will be ending soon. It was quite an uninspiring end, without fanfare. But when the fact dawned on me, it was quite an emo moment. No more seeing my beloved gang in school, sitting by the benches and just talk and bitch. Thank goodness for that fyp day, where in a kismet, we all just gathered there are started to live the good old days. Pity Ms Cheong was NOT AROUND!!! if not it would be complete... ok there's also ling kai who wasn't there.

And now I'm reading and thinking, again the punishment for lazy boys like me who decides to not keep up with the reading during school term is a lot of readings to do at the end of the semester. Jem can spank me!!

Ok now back to my books.

Apr 5, 2009

The Beautiful Imperfection




I've been saying that I want to blog a long post, but I never really got down to it because school life has gotten the better of me. But tonight, I saw a video clip (above) that really moved me and makes me want to share my thoughts. (You can watch this on my posted links)

Essentially the clip is about a woman who describes her late husband and his imperfections, and it struck a chord in me. Many times I have told and ask people, who are in relationships and are in one of the usual tiffs, if this is something they can live with. Because to me, there is no such thing as the perfect person, there is no such thing as the right person. The most important thing is to make your partner the right one. Which is why I ask if this is something they can live with.

Everyone will have their imperfections, will have difference in opinions, will have difference in character, there are no 2 person out there in perfect synergy (not even twins) where they agree to every single detail. The key to a perfect relationship is to learn to live with all this imperfections and to love it.

Sometimes there is no middle ground, sometimes you just have to give in and tolerate it, because for all you know there are many things that your partner is putting up with and giving in as well.

I can be a very patience person but there are times when I get high strung and lose it quite abruptly and quite suddenly. It is times like when I know how someone tolerates my nonsense and puts up with me scolding unnecessarily. Of course I put up with quite a fair share myself, but that's how it is, and that's how it works.

We have to learn be tolerant, to be patient, and at the end of the day know that for every complain, every flaw, every imperfection, there's something that they do that makes you smile, the brightens up your day, that tugs at your heart. It could be that simple smile, that comforting snore (yes j-en), the puppy eyes. And learning and knowing that "its the imperfections that make them perfect"

There's really the secret to it all.

Mar 1, 2009

song of the moment




Quite a nice song.. sorta describes how a certain someone and i met, in a more fairytale setting.

Feb 28, 2009

I actually like to read long blog entries

Which is why I love to read Ms Alexis' long posting. While I do want to sincerely type longer and put up more pics, the will to blog just seems to elude me, and I wonder why Ms Alexis can do so. Only to realize that while she's chilling at home on a Saturday, I am sitting here reading so that I can attempt to finish some background review for an assignment which is due next week.

Having said that, instead of sitting here and typing a ridiculously long entry is a big no no, which I shall not do. Why did I not do my readings and stuff earlier? Because I have been procrastinating. Not that I wasn't doing anything; I was sitting in the lab for 4 hours a day making sure everything is alright with my participants. Adding in preparation and travel time, it makes for a good 5 hours plus just being in school over a recess week which I could have otherwise been more productive.

Anyway, so while being in the lab I suddenly realized that my second pair of Havs broke. My other pair broke about 3 months back I think. This pair is a much older pair that has seen me running around FOC with my lovely juniors, and many other torture, so it giving way 4 years later is a pretty good deal. The other pair however, has barely accompanied me to anything more tormenting than the school pavement and the tarmac outside my house.




Ok I promise I would go a good long post with pictures after I get through next week.

I foresee sleepless nights ahead

Feb 24, 2009

Crazy lar me

I can't believe that I'm actually missing him till i'm tearing. I can be looking at him and still miss him. Crazy lar.

The next 10 weeks will be tough. With FYP due, assignments, projects, and lastly exams. 2 big papers no less, and one more fluffier one. How will I survive? We all do lar, its just how tough the process is.

I want to see him in person like now!! and give him one good cuddle.

LDR is no joke lar...

Feb 11, 2009

ARGH!!!!

=(

When I'm stressed up

a few things happen. Usually I'll get a very bad tummy, which includes horrific diarrhea like this morning when I thought I was peeing from my ass (HAHAHAH, gross i know). Also there used to be a few occasions when I would bad a super bad tummy ache. People close to me will also know that aside from somatic symptoms, I would also be a bit flustered (or you know they call it mang zang). So all that happened this morning, except for the tummy ache.

Reason for stress, FYP, heavy-ass midterms, freelance and I just missed a pop-quiz. But yes aside from that things are still going good. We've a few more participants (everyone counts), things are moving, but I've got a bit more to do.

J's really adorable and sweet and cute today, well everyday lar, but yar. And I got my tickets booked and confirmed already!! I'm sooooooooo excited about heading down, gosh.. I really can't wait nor contain my excitement!!!!!!

Feb 10, 2009

This is when it gets real busy

but its kinda good because FYP has finally started!!! Our experiments are running and everything appears to be going alright. We need more participants so we'll see how that turns out. Hopefully with a reduced sample, we can still catch some good effects, possibly some gender stuff too.

things are going great. I'm watching J fall asleep, and to me that has gotta be the best thing in the world. To be the last person one sees before falling asleep and to be the person to wake up to, is really the sweetest. J's in the US though, and that's gonna make communication slightly tougher, because the time difference is greater, and this two weeks is also my experiment weeks, so that makes my hours in school ridiculous plus a heavy midterms... but we'll pull through, we always pull through

met up with D and Ah Yee for dinner and coffee last night after a looong day in the lab, but it was totally worth it for all the laughters and long overdue catch up. Nothing scheduled for the next 2 weeks though, I'm going to be a hermit!!

in other news, I'm going to head down under!!!! =p

xoxo, S

Feb 8, 2009

You know you're republican when...

You're a pro-lifer, but support the death penalty.

You believe global warming and tobacco's link to cancer are junk science, but creationism should be taught in schools. 

You think trade with Cuba is wrong because the country is Communist, but trade with China and Vietnam is vital to a spirit of international harmony.

You don't let your kids watch Sesame Street because you accuse Bert and Ernie of "sexual deviance".

You argue that you need 300 handguns, in case a bear ever attacks your home.

You've ever referred to someone as "my (insert racial or ethnic minority here) friend".

You believe every man, woman, child and fetus should be armed to the teeth with AK-47's, hand grenades, handguns, and any other weapon imaginable.

You actually believe that people own AK-47's for "hunting purposes".

You think the words feminist and lesbian are synonyms.

You believe the hole in the ozone layer to be a myth created by crazy liberals.

You're for prayer in schools, as long as you don't pray to Allah or Buddha.

You think God hates homosexuality, but loves the death penalty.

You think all artists are gay.

You ever based an argument on the phrase, "Well, tradition dictates..."

You think Bush deserves the title "leader of the free world".

Feb 5, 2009

No one likes FYP

Really, I don't think anyone actually likes FYP. Its like this constant irritant that you can't get rid off for a year. And as always it can get better if it actually starts earlier and on time, but for some reasons that can't be controlled everyone has to rush it at the end, knowing that this will happen.

And then there are some massive time spent on a course which I have already done to death but I needed to fulfill my course requirements, so I HAD to take a course which wasted a lot of my precious time, which also meant a very bad previous semester for me!!! (which included getting my LOWEST SCORE ON RECORD!!! A FREAKING B-)

Waking up at 5 a.m. was unexpected though, because I thought a certain lazy someone wanted to be up by 8 a.m.. So i drifted in and out of consciousness till the certain someone awoke, and it was quite a nice feeling......

Feb 4, 2009

Too happy to sleep?

So its 6am here, and I am awake after only having like what 4 hours plus of sleep because I tried to fall asleep but i can't.

Too happy to sleep bah.

"Those 3 words are said too much, they're not enough"

Feb 3, 2009

Updates

So D was saying that I need to blog a bit more, and blog i shall. Although at times i wonder why do i even blog these days. what's the purpose of it all. And i've been wondering about this quite often no?

Well life has been boring, I haven't had much thoughts these days. School's been less than exciting. FYP's been less than stellar. J's back in Melb, I've been missing J.

Finally convinced dad to go for a medical checkup, he's been getting frequent giddiness. So I hope he'll be alright.

That's it for now i guess.

Jan 18, 2009

I've 'come home'

from my cousin's wedding, and well pictures will be up soon. It was really really fun to see all of that, especially the part where they snatch the bride!! The food is really good too, but the groom's suit was too boring, just plain black.

i want my earth grey or white suit or light brown suit, with a nice shirt inside!! and bow tie??

Jan 15, 2009

你能分清楚爱和喜欢吗?

喜歡咫尺千里。

當你喜歡一個人時,你想和他在一起,因為他會帶給你快樂;離開後,你會想念,想著想著就會笑,然後繼續你平靜的生活,並期待著與他再一次重逢。

When you like a person, you want to be with him, because he makes you happy; after you leave him, you might smile when you think of the him, and life goes on and you wish that one day might meet him again.

當你
一個人時,你想和他在一起,那是一種牽腸掛肚的捨不得,怕他受委屈,怕他不能好好照顧自己;離開後,你也會想念,想著想著歎一口氣,'不知他現在過的怎樣?' 然後你繼續你平靜的生活,希望他早日回到你身邊。

When you love a person, you want to be with him, you don't want to let him go, you're afraid that he would suffer, afraid that he cannot take care of himself. When he is no longer in your life, you will also miss him, but you will sigh and wonder how is he doing now. Life goes on as normal and you hope that he would return to your side one day.

喜歡的人在你眼中是天使,無所不能,他總會滿足你的任性的要求。你的人在你眼中是孩子,傻傻的,你不期望他做出什麼'好事'來,只一味縱容他那些讓人哭笑不得的舉動。

In your eyes, the person you like is like an angel, willing to do what you ask him to. The person you love however is just like a child in your eyes, the silly boy whose every action makes you want to laugh and cry at the same time.

你會希望你
喜歡的人陪著你,然而你心中想的可能是你的人;你會希望陪在你的人身邊,看他在你面前睡得如此安逸甜美毫不設防的樣子,你會微笑,會覺得好幸福。

You will want the person you like to be by your side but in your heart, you could be thinking of the one you love. And if the one you love is sleeping beside you, seeing that peaceful and vulnerable face will bring a smile to your face and you will feel blessed.

喜歡的人傷害了你,你會生氣,並且一定要讓他哄著騙著逗你笑你才原諒他;你的人傷害了你,你只會獨自傷心,因為你怕對他大吼大叫會嚇著他,你憂傷地微笑著,看著他的眼睛,一旦發現他的眼裡流露出歉意和悔恨,你會立即心疼地摟他在懷裡,那一刻,你也是幸福的

If the person that you like hurts you, you would get angry and you would only forgive him after he has pacify you. But if the person you love hurts you, you would swallow it down because you don't want to scream at him. You would look at him in the eyes and when you see that his eyes is filled with remorse and guilt and even tears, you will 心疼 him so much that you will embrace him and tell him it is alright. In that moment, you are blessed and in bliss.


你可以同時喜歡很多人,你會希望和很多人在一起,但也許很多年後你才發現,原來你的就只有那麼一個,就那麼一個,怎麼都不會變,你以為把他忘記了,其實只是忙的沒空想起而已,

You can like many people at the same time, and wish to be together with many of them, but after many years, you may realize that there's only one person whom you really love, and it has never changed. You may think that you have forgotten, but you were just to busy to remember.

對於你
喜歡的人,你關注的是他的優點;對於你的人,你關注的是他的缺點,並且,那些缺點如果無關原則的話,它們在你眼裡是可愛的,獨一無二的。

You focus on the good points of the person you like, but for the person you love, you focus on his flaws, but these flaws are endearing to you, they are unique flaws in him that you find so cute.


喜歡其實只有一紙之隔,任何都從喜歡開始,當有天你突然發現,你喜歡的那個人在你眼中不再完美,而他的瑕疵正如月中的桂影一般讓你更加依依不捨,你會覺得與他光彩照人的一面相比,你更願意看他在你面前無助的表情,不知道是不是應該祝賀你,總之,你的感情昇華了

仰慕不是,甚至不是喜歡,當你對一個人只有仰慕之情時,你們在一起便失去了和諧。

有人說
一個人很累,的確是,因為你想為他承擔,可是喜歡相比最大的魅力就在於,

They say that loving a person is tiring, and indeed it is because you want to share any burden with him, but perhaps the biggest difference between love and like is that...

當你和
的人在一起時,你的感覺就像回家了!

.. when you're together with the person you love, you feel like you have come home.

Jan 13, 2009

让我照顾你

因为最关心你的人是我

Jan 4, 2009

Random shots over the days

I went cycling a couple of days back from East Coast all the way to Changi Village and had the nasi lemak there! Of course i needed to stop by the runway to look at the planes:




The SAF Ferry Terminal, such fond, and not-so-fond memories of my BMT days, waiting here for the ferry to bring us away from civilization:


Running around Haji Lane and Katong and Siglap:

Jem forgot to capture the shoes i was trying on into this shot!!


This is a damn good idea for a fish tank!




Inspired by Little Nonya, we had Peranakan food






Jan 3, 2009

Ip Man

Damn nice show!!!!!!! go watch

Jan 1, 2009

梁靜茹 - 可惜不是你



梁靜茹-可惜不是你

这一刻突然觉得好熟悉
像昨天今天同时在放映
我这句语气原来好像你
不就是我们爱过的证据

差一点骗了自己骗了你
爱与被爱不一定成正比
我知道被疼是一种运气
但我无法完全交出自己
努力为你改变
却变不了预留的伏笔
以为在你身边那也算永远
仿佛还是昨天
可是昨天已非常遥远
但闭上双眼我还看得见

可惜不是你陪我到最後
曾一起走却走失那路口
感谢那是你牵过我的手
还能感受那温柔
那一段我们曾心贴着心
我想我更有权力关心你
可能你已走进别人风景
多希望也有星光的投影
努力为你改变
却变不了预留的伏笔
以为在你身边那也算永远
仿佛还是昨天
可是昨天已非常遥远
但闭上双眼我还看得见

可惜不是你陪我到最後
曾一起走却走失那路口
感谢那是你牵过我的手
还能感受那温柔
可惜不是你陪我到最後
曾一起走却走失那路口
感谢那是你牵过我的手
还能感受那温柔
感谢那是你牵过我的手
还能温暖我胸口

Dec 30, 2008

young men are too drama, old men are too jaded

Such a lovely title isn't it? Something of the sort where we can imagine collection of short stories, from love stories to the not-so-love-story.

I just realized that I haven't updated much here, and sometimes I wonder what is the purpose of a blog afterall these days. When I was much younger (refer to my 2001 posting for reference), I used to blog a whole lot more, and I remember that this blog is like a diary for me, for me to pen down the goings in my life, so that I can remember. I still remember this "code" that a blog is as much like a bedtime diary just that people can read. I also remember arguments we had (Alanna and I and others) have over other people's issue with our postings; essentially they had issues with what we said and I remember telling those people that if you don't like what you are reading, then stop reading it (like Duh!)

But as I grew older, I (well we actually) bought a real paper diary in which I pen down my most most personal thoughts, thoughts and feelings which I am starting to think that people should not and need not know about, as opposed to some other thoughts and feelings which I think can be shared. Its like there are things which I want to tell all my friends, and I would love to say it to them, but sometimes repeating it is quite tiring.

Then there are other reasons such as the issue itself, and public viewing. And as I am typing this, I think of times when I think of how to disguise what I am trying to say such that it is obvious but not obvious enough.

I am going to continue to blog, especially when my interest to 'bitch' about certain topics is still alive and burning. I am really starting to think about how much change one goes through as we grow and mature. Our personality stays the same but manifests itself in different manner. So what am I trying to say here?

Young men are too drama and old men are too jaded!!

Dec 6, 2008

Yeah I Dunno Why I'm Feeling Kinda Blue

Yeah I Dunno Why I'm Feeling Kinda Blue

We sailed over seven seas
Won't you let me catch you fall
What are you looking at
I'm ms american dream since i was 17

Goodnight sweetheart its time to go
When you beat on that drum
I'm trying not to stare
Some say the heart is just like a wheel

Mystery the moon
Who made up all the rules
And even though the moments passed me by
Dad your boy is about to fall

It's hard to remember how it felt before
There's another world inside of me
This is where the summer ends
If I am lost for a day try to find me

Lovin' you is easy cause you're beautiful
You're asking yourself what's real
Wait in line till your time
How can I tell you what I'm feeling

#######

Damn cool right? How did i do it? Put your mp3 on Shuffle and write the first line of the next 20 songs. The 21st song will be the title. I only used english songs! Amazing how this actually conveys how i feel!

Dec 4, 2008

The Man Who Can't Be Moved



The Script - The Man Who Can't Be Moved

Going back to the corner where I first saw you,
Gonna camp in my sleeping bag not I'm not gonna move,
Got some words on cardboard got your picture in my hand,
Saying if you see this girl can you tell her where I am,
Some try to hand me money they don't understand,
I'm not... broke I'm just a broken hearted man,
I know it makes no sense, but what else can I do,
How can I move on when I've been in love with you...

Cos if one day you wake up and find that your missing me,
And your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I can be,
Thinking maybe you'd come back here to the place that we'd meet,
And you'd see me waiting for you on the corner of the street.

So I'm not moving...
I'm not moving.

Policeman says son you can't sit her,
I said there's someone I'm waiting for if it's a day, a month, a year,
Gotta stand my ground even if it rains or snows,
If she changes her mind this is the first place she will go.

Cos if one day you wake up and find that your missing me,
And your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I can be,
Thinking maybe you'd come back here to the place that we'd meet,
And you'd see me waiting for you on the corner of the street.

So I'm not moving...
I'm not moving.

I'm not moving...
I'm not moving.

People talk about the guy
Whos waiting on a girl...
Oohoohwoo
There on no hole in his shoes
But a big hole in his world...
Hmmmm

Maybe I'll get famous as man who can't be moved,
And maybe you won't mean to but you'll see me on the news,
And you'll come running to the corner...
Cos you'll know it's just for you

I'm the man who can't be moved
I'm the man who can't be moved...

Cos if one day you wake up and find that your missing me,
And your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I can be,
Thinking maybe you'd come back here to the place that we'd meet,
And you'd see me waiting for you on the corner of the street.
[Repeat in backgroung]

So I'm not moving...
I'm not moving.

I'm not moving...
I'm not moving.

Going back to the corner where I first saw you,
Gonna camp in my sleeping bag not I'm not gonna move.

Nov 20, 2008

I WANT AN IPHONE~!!!!!

I WANT AN IPHONE!!

I want the 3G 16gb one, anybody, 2nd hand selling??!?!

Nov 7, 2008

Nov 1, 2008

Oct 29, 2008

Oct 28, 2008

it takes very little

for us to realize how much someone means to you, and it takes even less for you to know why you loved that someone so much in the first place.

Oct 22, 2008

The Lucky 800 post, but its basically bitching...

about a lot of things.

I mean ARGH!! i am such a control freak. but how does one help it whenever I don't do as much, or control is as much, then things become sub-standard. There's really only so many people I can trust to let things go as they should and still have know that it will come out right.

Nothing really specific but more generic reflection of my personality. Friends have said I should loosen up, perhaps. Oh, but I am such a bitch some times! Its like I can't control the boiling feeling inside when things are sub-standard, or you know that things are happening that will have adverse effect when all that needs to be done is to shut up, move people away or do everything by myself. At least I can be sure of the quality, and if it sucks, then its all my fault, cos I suck (which incidentally i noted to ayline, mark and choo yuan that i indeed suck at many things!!! HAHAHAHA)

LOOSEN UP kiezin, don't be so anal retentive, take it easy and breathe!!

Oct 17, 2008

drooling over

The new Macbook Pros!!!! omg they are like sexiest thing alive. the build quality is sooooooo good (from one solid brick of aluminum) feels like its build by the aerospace industry.





and the new LED cinema display, that is the future of the new desktop!! Go home, plug in your laptops to the big screen LED (which also charges up your laptop, so you really only need one powerpoint) and when you're ready to go, just unplug the laptop. WOOOAAHH!!






Did I mention they are all LED display?!?!

Oct 12, 2008

2nd half of the semester

The 2nd half of the semester is always filled with ridiculous amount of work waiting to be handed in. Its always a punishment for lazy boys like me.

So i did manage to see someone for our 2nd anniversary!


This was the funniest thing i saw, i was kinda thinking that guy is damn cute, then lo and behold!! the billboard above


Trying on some bags..


I don't really know what i was doing.... so..




The customary cute food pic, yes my eyebags, someone kept me up all night looong

Sep 25, 2008

waltzing into our 3rd year

i can't believe that we've been together for more than 2 years already. monday was our 2nd anniversary; there was not much fanfare there but yes.

the boy was ridiculously sweet and it has just been the most amazing. have not been happier and definitely the best so far. i mean hey for the past 9 months, we've had 2 bigger quarrels, not too bad aei.

here's to 2 and for the many more to come.

=)

Sep 14, 2008

more post because alexis says so

alexis has been bugging me, you know how she's such a bugger right, so i am blogging more.

you guys just know that the rant about public transport is coming up, but that will be done later. right now, i can't get over how absolutely dazzling the new itunes visualizer is, i want to share it with all of you!!









Sep 10, 2008

voice of no reason

recently, while on an atheist forum, i encountered a very strange person arguing against evolution and proving the existence of god. what i found overwhelming was the use of ad hominem defense for any argument leverage against them, and if we give any evidence for evolution, it would be refuted by a statement claiming that its a circular logic without proving anything. so fine so be it. we then ask them to prove the existence of god.

what truly baffled me was the use of the existence A to show that without the existence of B, there would not be A. this is a fundamental fallacy in itself.

the reasoning goes as such, there is the existence of a golden ratio. if there was no existence of god, how can there be a golden ratio. hence since there is golden ratio therefore god exist.

this is a very fundamental logic error that we humans are very prone to fall into. one must first establish that because of the existence of god therefore there is a golden ratio first for the above logic to stand, if not we can simply substitute the logic above with anything and it will still stand.

for e.g. there is the existence of a golden ratio. if there was no existence of Santa Claus, how can there be a golden ratio. hence since there is golden ratio therefore Santa Claus exist.
or even less subtly, there are poisonous apples in this world. if there was no Cinderella, how can there be poisonous apples. hence since there are poisonous, there are Cinderellas

And the weirdest thing is that this poster was obviously  out for a verbal sparring without even wanting to listen to anything posited, hence i said to the rest of them, there's no need to give any scientific evidence at all, since nothing will be believed.

Their research method seems to be:

1. Hypothesis - Evolution is wrong (or [insert random event] is wrong)
2. Methods - Check the Bible
3. Conclusion - Evolution is wrong / right depending which denomination and country you come from / [insert whatever the Bible says]


Critical thinking?

besides hot guys

Besides hot guys (1), what have i been up to?

mostly i have been keeping up with school work and that is making me busy enough.

I was just having a conversation with amy that day, and she noted that she wasn't feeling particularly motivated in school. But for me, i am feeling one notch lower, i feel unmotivated. (note the fine difference between not particularly motivated and unmotivated).

It just appears that there's this certain air of gloom surrounding year 4s, i saw it in my seniors and i wondered why, and now i am feeling it for myself.

i am almost very sure that i had enough of school and i don't want anymore of it. i am ready to be an adult and to go out there and rule the world!

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1. and by hot guys, i don't mean that i have been sleeping with them!!! i have been exercising my eyes on the web

Sep 7, 2008

hot guys for you to drool!!

hahahaha feast your eyes out!


Sep 4, 2008

So sweeet



Isn't this just the sweetest?? =)

Jul 20, 2008

updates

I have been told to update my blog. Hahaha. its strange that i should update so much less that i am here in melbourne. but i reckon i owe everyone just a really quick summary. I have been here in melbourne for 5 weeks already, and in another 2 weeks i'll be back in sunny singapore.

Spending a lot of quality time with you-know-who, and we even went for a short trip to tasmania. it's such a lovely lovely place, and i promise i will put the pictures up on facebook. we also went for some road trips and in fact this weekend we will be going for another two road trip.

things have been quite ok with everything. work has been pretty alright, but mundane. not exactly learning as much as i would have love to, but still its a job. in other good news, i am going for my interview on wednesday with Whybin\TBWA\Melbourne!!! I am so excited and looking forward to that.

Well what i have been doing? i have been going extremely high listening to remixes!



I miss everyone! see you guys real soon and yes i will blog more

Apr 21, 2008

Uniquely Singapore...

In other countries, when there are massive securities lapse, such as the escape of the most wanted terrorist, the minister who's in charge will usually take responsibility in one way or another.

Only in Singapore, we do it the Singapore way.

Minister Wong Kan Seng said, "There is no doubt that Mas Selamat escaped" (....Noooooooooooo)

And of course its everyone else's fault. The guards who took too long to inform, the window, the fence. Everyone else BUT the ministry.

But of course, we're Uniquely Singapore. Its ok, our Ministers are human and they make mistakes. PAP ministers that is. BUT if you are in the opposition and just declare your race wrongly, OOOHHH that is damn grave error and you'll single handedly squander away all our reserves.

It is however ok that as the Minister of State, that you make a grievous, such as letting the most wanted terrorist escape. Yeap Singapore!

Loves me country to death

the boy insists

The boy insist that it his, due credits must be given to the sweet boy

"Missing someone gets easier everyday.
Because, even though it is one day further from the last time you saw each other,
it is one day closer to the next time you will…"

- Jem

Apr 20, 2008

One of those days

Today is one of those days whereby after talking incessantly to the boy, we both started to frantically - well not that frantically but you get the idea - look for tickets to any location that is in between both of us. And obviously it has to be next week or the week after because neither of us can wait any longer.


"Missing someone gets easier everyday.
Because, even though it is one day further from the last time you saw each other,
it is one day closer to the next time you will…"

He tried to pass this off as his, but i know better =p

Its still the sweetest thing nonetheless.

Apr 12, 2008

this time of the year

It is always at this time of the year where times get just a bit tougher. It's always at about slight more than halfway through, because its just a bit too long since there we saw each other, but yet not near enough till we see each other again.

tough times will pass definitely and in just more than a few weeks i get to see you again.

doesn't make it less tough, but i can see the light getting brighter.

mom says 1 year apart is short. i think 6 months is way too long.

=)

Mar 17, 2008

updating

gabby says i haven't been updating alot. well work's been super busy. i wish i could say more but, i'm feeling all weird out. so i'm off to bed.

i want a cuddle

Mar 15, 2008

you know you are gay (part 2)...

you know you are gay when:

1. your bag is coveted by your sis and your mom
2. you use sister's blusher
3. you know more about beauty than your sis and mom combined
4. they need your stamp of approval before stepping out of the house
5. when you listen to kylie's in my arms, you start shaking to every single beat!!!!! with THAT look on your face


Feb 18, 2008

freakingly accurate




What Kie Zin Means



You are a seeker of knowledge, and you have learned many things in your life.

You are also a keeper of knowledge - meaning you don't spill secrets or spread gossip.

People sometimes think you're snobby or aloof, but you're just too deep in thought to pay attention to them.



You tend to be pretty tightly wound. It's easy to get you excited... which can be a good or bad thing.

You have a lot of enthusiasm, but it fades rather quickly. You don't stick with any one thing for very long.

You have the drive to accomplish a lot in a short amount of time. Your biggest problem is making sure you finish the projects you start.



You are friendly, charming, and warm. You get along with almost everyone.

You work hard not to rock the boat. Your easy going attitude brings people together.

At times, you can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, you pull it together.



You are incredibly wise and perceptive. You have a lot of life experience.

You are a natural peacemaker, and you are especially good at helping others get along.

But keeping the peace in your own life is not easy. You see things very differently, and it's hard to get you to budge.







You are very intuitive and wise. You understand the world better than most people.

You also have a very active imagination. You often get carried away with your thoughts.

You are prone to a little paranoia and jealousy. You sometimes go overboard in interpreting signals.